Steps

1. Do not get too upset. The worst thing you can do is get down on yourself and get depressed and become suicidal. There will be days when you feel that way but it goes away after a moment and you will feel better once you go back to doing your hobbies.
2. Stick to your hobbies. "Aspies" have certain restrictive hobbies that they like to do throughout the day that keeps their interest, be it counting, playing cards, calculating sports stats, anything that calms you down, makes you happy, just stick with it.
3. Once you know who you are through the hobbies and interests you love, help your family understand who you are. Work with them to help them get you and welcome them into your world.
4. In school, be it home school or public or private, be open to starting new relationships with people even if you do not want to. Find someone with the same interests and engage in conversation, go out and join a social group with others like you, get out of your shell a little more and make yourself susceptible to new things even if at first you do not like it.
5. Accept who you are. Like yourself and know your limitations as a person. Just because you have a social disorder doesn't mean you aren't a person too. You have limitations and are shy, who isn't? You are still you and just accept yourself and learn to love who you are, your limitations make you who you are.